To be believed…
If you were to be believed, if you told the stories that remain unshared, what would you say?
My parents fought; that’s the easy way to tell this story, but that isn’t true. Not really, and the loss I feel in that telling hurts, desperately and violently. And I ask myself why I’m lying. For them? For me? For all of us not ready? Because I’m not ready.
For that face
that follows the telling.
I am believed, but scattered too — as unspoken things come to light — always too soon. I’m not ready and neither are you — never will be for this litany of sorrows. No substance to blame, a simpler before to predate an angry after. Only a sadness described: “My dad wasn’t a nice man; I wanted to be better,” he said. “I can’t.”
This hurts to speak, to write, to be. I know. The pressure of heart and mind reaches my pen, my hand, my being. My side is pain. Tension in the telling. I am here and there in the telling. My dad yelled. I hid.
In science fiction and tessering narratives. In families not as sad. In stories I could recognize. I tessered to — traveled away from here. To an unfamiliar better; but that room of spackled ceiling and little girls hiding — one distant, the other all-too-present — remains, and they hurt.
I tell you — sitting across from me —
“All families have problems.”
“Not like this.”
I want to shake them, but instead I nod. “I guess so.” This hurts; I know. I try to speak again — of never knowing safety, then having to patchwork it together in a dwelling that is solely mine, with only the company of an orangey tabby.
You are safe; you are here — a repetition I hope to believe, need to believe. Sometimes do and it hurts. “Excruciatingly so?” The woman across from me, the sage, inquires. I am here and there simultaneously.
My thumb and forefingers cramp, in the memory of being misunderstood. Where is belief without mutual understanding, a shared pain? I wish you did — but you don’t. How could you? You want to believe me, but don’t know how.
So we sit with a coffee or two between us, as I share this lengthier tale.